First and foremost, there is one relationship that will be one of the most important relationships you will ever have. It is the one that will define all other connections throughout your life. It is the relationship you have with yourself. I know it's cliche, but you truly can't love another if you don't love yourself. If you believe yourself to be loveable and deserving of respect, then you will be able to avoid most abusive relationships.
I know..blah blah blah..this is so much easier said then done. You can't just wake up one moring and love the person you are. Or can you? I used to have a hard time with this one. Mostly in those awkward teenage years when I was slightly overweight and never felt 'good enough'. I wasn't thin enough, pretty enough, smart enough, fast enough..or even happy enough. These feelings lasted through the first year or so of college. What changed? My views on who I was 'supposed' to be. I woke up one morning and I was physicaly and emotionaly tired of looking in the mirror and hating myself. Because let's be honest, hatred (no matter where it's directed), is Exasperatingly Exhausting (yes I know that's redundant). You feel drained and miserable all the time because youre wasting energy on hating things or people you can't change. So I decided to make a list of the things that I didn't like about myself that I COULDN'T change, at least at the time. For example, my boobs weren't big enough, my butt was too big and I'm VERY short. The next list was of personality traits that weren't going away any time soon, either. They included: Spiteful, Jealous, and a pushover. I did this not to dwell and cry over...but to accept and move on. 'Here I am. Take me or leave me'. I faked it for a while and then eventualy, I really did accept my flaws for what they were. And you know what happened? Those personality flaws that I thought would never go away, started to. Granted my butt and breasts stayed the same (and yes I'm still short), but overall I was happy with who I was. Therefore, I had no reason to be jealous, and the spite disapated with my bad attitude toward myself. As far as being a pushover, I have my moments...but not as often, because I value who I am. I know that I am worth being treated with respect and dignity. If you accept your flaws for what they are and move forward...you will see your life take a big turn. Afterall, if you like who you are, then what does it matter what anyone else thinks?
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